General Musings
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Surprising Reasons You are Self Sabotaging Your Own Happiness
See this quote above? Yes, it’s from the start of the year. I knew I wanted to write about self-sabotage, mostly because I’m realizing more and more that I have a not so healthy relationship with it. I saw this quote back in January, there are many other really good introspective quotes at Source Messages, and held off writing about it, because I really wanted some time to mull it over. The lines that struck me the most were: “You’re no longer sabotaging situations when they’re going well. You’re seeing things for what they are instead of through the lens of your past conditioning.” Sabotaging things when they’re going well? We…
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Manifesting – it’s simple but far from easy
Everyone says manifesting something is so easy! You just set your intention, let it go, and then wait for it to come to you. There are also those who will remind you to “expect the unexpected.” Easy peasy! But what everyone neglects to talk about is that once you’ve got yourself really focusing on something (setting your intention), it’s not so easy to simply switch your focus to something else or simply forget about it and go on with your day (letting it go). I mean once I’ve got that daydream going in full technicolor vividness, it’s the hardest thing for me to stop the daydream. I can really get…
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Change is Never Easy, Resisting is Quite Common Though
Have you heard of the five stages of change? I am familiar with the five stages of grief. But while I was listening to my meditation app, it presented a mini lesson on the five stages of change. Briefly, the five stages of change are: Pre-contemplation: I’m not thinking about it, not seeing necessity.Contemplation: I might be thinking about it, but feeling unsure.Preparation: I’m interested, but not sure what to do/how to accomplish the change.Action: I’m actively working on making a change.Maintenance: I’m actively working on maintaining a change I’ve made. In the couple of articles I found, they both talked about change in behavior. But I think this model works for life changes too.…
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Are Routines the Means to a More Mindful, Meaningful Life?
I’ve been struggling with my routines lately, and consequently am not getting done all I want to each day. It’s a bit annoying, because back in December I had worked out a whole schedule for myself. One in which I got everything done that I wanted to in a day. Both things for my 9-5 desk job, and also things for my blog. I had plenty of time, more than enough time in fact. And not just for work related tasks, but for exercising, and personal care (face washing, showering). I had it all worked out, and for the month of December it did work out just as planned. But…
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Leaving Space for You
The other day, I saw a headline from Elephant Journal, something about “Dear lover, I’m holding space in my life for you, but I’m not waiting for you.” And I thought this was so profound. On the surface, this is what you tell yourself, that’s what we all tell each other, right? Don’t wait for the guy, he’ll come when it’s time, when he’s ready. The right one will show up, and you won’t have to actually do anything at all. But it feels a bit like when you work on focusing on other things, ANY other things, it’s like you’re trying to crowd out your focus on “The One.” And…
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Get your life out of reverse!
I’ve been dreaming a lot lately. Often of trains, or cars, or other modes of transportation. Sometimes I’m driving, and sometimes I’m a passenger. In my most recent dream, I was a passenger, and the I knew the driver in my dream but not in real life, and he was driving backwards! So I went and looked it up at Dreammoods.com: “To dream that you are driving a car denotes your ambition, your drive and your ability to navigate from one stage of your life to another. If you are driving the car, then you are taking an active role in the way your life is going. However, if you are the passenger,…
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Morning Pages, Beneficial Even if Not Done as Prescribed?
I’ve been writing morning pages for about two years. Not so consistently at first. I had never really journaled before that point, so it was all a really new experience for me, and the consistency part wasn’t my strong suit at first. I have found them to be very helpful though in time, in much the way Julia Cameron intended them to be: they’ve helped quiet all the negative voices swirling in my head, or at least slowed the spin. They’ve helped me get more focused on things, and able to hear my inner creative voice better. They’ve given me space to vent and question, organize and strategize, and overall helped me…
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Keeping Promises to Myself
I’ve taken a bit of time off but now, I‘m back. And ready to show up. For me. Cause the first, possibly the best habit I could have is showing up for myself. Which means keeping my promises to myself. And that may all sound a bit hokey. And what I’m about to say may sound even more so, but in doing all that shadow work, (I’ll put a link to that blog post one I’m done writing it) I got in touch with my inner child. And it occurred to me that if I’m going to work on healing my inner child, then I need to think of her…
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Motivation – It Takes Baby Steps. And a Different Mindset
I’ve been rethinking this whole going for a walk thing. And I realize that my problem isn’t in the moving part, it’s the getting out the door part. And I’ve tried (sort of, not really) to get out. During the day is hard. And I have always liked the morning better. It’s just the getting up part. Marty is coming to stay with us for a week, and he does get me up and at ‘em early in the morning. Wait, let me back up a bit… Marty is a Labrador. When his humans go to visit grandkids, it usually involves a plane and at least a couple of weeks,…
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Organize Your Things, Keep Life Calm
So, that sounds pretty simplistic, doesn’t’ it? Easier said than done, I can hear you thinking. Well, I’m right there with ya. And as someone who playfully dubs herself the “Queen of Messes,” I too have had major moan moments of, “there’s a mess again? How did this happen? Why is that stuff piling up? Again?!” Now, I’m not here to attempt to teach you how to organize your things. That’s better left to someone like Marie Kondo. And if you’re needing help getting started may I refer you to her book, or her Netflix series. She’s got a lot of tips for sorting, organizing, repurposing, etc. So, although I’m not the…
